As well as writing more than a dozen books on love and relationships, including the acclaimed “The Dream Prince Trap - covering the danger of searching for the perfect partner” - Hegmann is also a relationship counsellor for singles and couples.
We asked him about the most important things to look out for for expats dipping a toe into the German dating waters. Don't get hung up on cultural differences Your experience of dating is not going to be wildly different from one country to another — especially in Europe.
We wanted to get this bit out of the way before we went any further, and it helps to clarify some things we mention later on. The first mental hurdle you need to leap over here is that every Thai girl you meet only wants to part you from your cash. Sure, there are a large number of "professional" girls (mostly bargirls) working western guys for clothes, holidays, jewelry, and whatever else they can get them to pay for.
The question on your mind is probably, "Well, why don't Thai girls date Thai guys? But there are also tens of thousands of Thai girls who are looking to meet a guy they can fall in love with.
Real Thai women are exactly what you expect them to be.
[…] wimp, I can admit), but because of the environment he was raised in. Eastern European women require you to be strong and masculine, but they don’t have near the stigma against the nice […] […] the dating scene was in a place like Los Angeles.
Of all the overlooked destinations in Asia for a single guy to visit, Bangkok is top of that list. Well, probably because it's developed a reputation as being "too popular" a place for single men to visit, mostly because it was a player's paradise for a long time.
Thailand is everything you'd expect from an Asian country - it's a bustling mix of the ancient with the utterly modern, all wrapped up in a colorful explosion of beauty.
A 2008 survey of European singles for dating website Parship found that Germans tended to be the most experienced with serious relationships, uninterested in marriage and pessimistic about finding a new partner soon. If what you're doing isn't working, change it!
“If you're looking for love for three or four years, or you never had a relationship lasting longer than six months, then probably you're doing something – maybe not wrong, but maybe not right for you,” Hegmann says.
“Some people think that's dangerous, I think it's a good thing – I would be really worried if we couldn't also find love online.
Hegmann agrees that there's a stereotype that access to online dating makes people less likely to work through their problems or settle on any one person, but argues that it's false.